Virginity and Marriage

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Virginity and Marriage

A hymen that shields a vagina opening serves as an important protection against various impurity and infections; it does not, of course, have any “religious” meaning. Such protection is especially important in the childhood, since chemical environment inside vagina until puberty is alkaline (as it is also during menstruations at an elder age) and a much greater variety of pathogenic microorganisms are likely to prosper and multiply in an alkaline environment as opposed to an acid one. Healthy women have an acid intravaginal environment (when they are out of menstruations).

A rupture of hymen occurs usually during the first sexual intercourse. This is quite a painful procedure.

Common ethics requires from a man to minimize this pain. During defloration (a hymen rupture) a man has to enter a vagina only once — and to get out right away; subsequent genital contacts are not allowed until the wound gets healed, which happens in a few days.

One should understand that when defloration is performed in this manner painful sensations are minimal, while a prolonged sexual contact in this situation could make them extraordinary acute or even lead to death of the girl.

A girl who is about to undergo a defloration must inform her partner about it and, perhaps, even to provide him with some instructions.

But a lack of care from the side of a man in this situation would point at such a great level of his ethic immaturity that I would not recommend maintaining any further relationship with him, let alone marrying him.

In perverted religious traditions, as we all know, there may exist a requirement for women to enter into a marriage while still being a virgin. This implies that two people must get married “blindly”: without having studied each other first as to their sexual compatibility or the ability to live together. But spiritually advanced people cannot share this opinion.

It is important to understand that a person can hardly find a sexual harmony with any partner. But without it a happy family life is hardly possible. Especially if we recall that some people — both men and women — are absolutely sexually unfit. We also must not forget about such factors of sexual incompatibility as anatomic genital variations, physiological disabilities of some men and women, as well as bioenergetic incompatibility [24].